Of all the work that I do to support women nurses who it’s their psychological, emotional, and traumatic suffering there is a few common threads that emerge. One is SHAME. Shame is a tough emotion to describe but the best understanding I’ve found is our “not enoughness”. It is pervasive feeling that eats away at every aspect of our lives because of its constant reminder that we are not good enough in some way. We as women, and also men, are subject to this poisonous influence as we exist within our modern day systems. But it also affects our children.
Our children are growing up in a world quite different then the one we did and shame in our culture is trickling down to them. We as parents are busier than ever, glued to our phones and devices, and struggling to find ourselves in this toxic culture all the while our children are also trying to navigate their own existence and many are landing in a place of feeling small, unimportant, and insignificant.
Being a middle child or having multiple siblings only makes this low vibrational feeling of shame WORSE. We now have more to complete with, sibling rivalry and comparison dynamics, and the constant strive for love, attention, and affection.
Shame erodes our self worth and self esteem and can lead to depression, anxiety, substance use and more.